Authentic Recovery and Boundaries

The themes that came up this week in the Support Group were the Authenticity of Recovery and Boundaries.

One member brought up whether she could be “in recovery” when her behavior is still present. Other members responded by explaining that recovery is a process, where timelines like ‘once you’ve been behavior free for six months, you’re recovered’ don’t work. Because recovery from an eating disorder is so personal and we have to re-learn how to relate with food, only the individual can truly determine whether they are recovered or are presently working on recovery. We also discussed how even though we may be “recovered” in that behavior is no longer there, the underlying issues fueling our eating disorder will likely have to be dealt with over the course of life. This member was encouraged by others as they affirmed her transparency and set forth the proof that she is working on these issues when she comes to group every week and continues to work on her recovery.

The issue of boundaries came up as well, especially relating to family and friends. Members disclosed how hard it is to set appropriate boundaries with those they love. Setting healthy parameters and explaining our needs are vital steps to helping us move forward in recovery. For example, one member disclosed how she is planning to set a boundary with her mom concerning talking about her appearance. Her motivation is to prevent herself from being triggered in this relationship, which shows her being proactive and advocating for herself. Honesty, self-care, and discerning what you personally need in relationships is key here.

As always, different members struggle with different challenges, but support is always given from group members to ‘keep on going on in the positive direction you’re headed, despite how many times you get knocked down, because it will be worth it in the long run.’ Many successes were also brought up, which were very encouraging and worthy of celebration, like finding a therapist, reaching out to others for support in the moment, getting a new job, finding inner peace, and continuing to work on recovery on a daily basis. Looking forward to seeing you all next week,

Kathryn